Posts Tagged ‘child’

How far does violence extend, how do we determine exactly who is responsible for the violence that children are seeing on television and in music.  What about video game’s, who is taking the responsibility for the violence and awful things that, are occurring right before the eyes of the youth today?  Many politicians are looking to eagerly blame the media and entertainment industry.  Is that the correct place to lay the blame?  Perhaps parents are the people ultimately to blame.

More parents today than ever before are working longer hours just to stay afloat financially.  This alone results in phenomenal numbers of children being left with a television as the babysitter in charge of teaching right from wrong.  How does a child learn the difference between right and wrong, when their parents are nowhere to be found?  Where does the parents’ responsibility to parent a child and the governments’ right to parent a child merge?

Does the government even have a right to parent children?  Should the government be allowed to determine what is appropriate for all children to watch, or should that be ultimately left up to the parents to decide on their own?  There have been television shows, movies, musical artists, and even books banned because the government does not approve.

Where is the line drawn in who controls what the children are watching?  Is it really up to the parents, or is it left to the children to decide on their own?  When did parents lose the ability to control what their child watches, and when did the parent become subject to the child’s own opinion?  While some advances in technology have been wonderful, there is also much effort by the government to control what a parent does with their own child, and it is this more than anything that has caused controversy on a civil liberties basis.

There have been several inventions and developments that are able to help parents monitor their children; from the v-chip to programs that log instant messenger programs.

These developments are great for the parents looking to monitor their child themselves, but what about the music industry.  Most parents are constantly told that the violence their child is exposed to is the fault of the music industry.  The blame is placed on the singers and producers for releasing the music.

Much blame is placed everywhere but the parents for taking responsibility for their own children and determining what is best for them.  With politicians attempting to punish some area of the entertainment industry each time a national tragedy occurs, it puts a major crimp on the ability of parents to decide for themselves what is acceptable for their child and what is not.  Many are left to allow their child to choose from the options that are left, once the government has omitted the choices that are bad.

Is this censorship, or helping raise children?  Many seem to think it leans heavily towards censorship, a place the governments should not be treading.  Many others tend to feel that it should be a high priority of the government to protect everyone from something that can potentially be bad, without even giving people the option to make their own decisions.

The issue as to what extent the government should intervene with the way in which we live our lives is hotly contested, and it works in a much larger circle than just the control of our children.  Should the government take a step back, and allow society to use its freedoms and powers for self regulation, or is there a need for intervention to ensure the greater good and justice for the welfare of society as a whole?  For the time being, it seems as though the most pragmatic approach relates somewhere in the middle, although it will be interesting to see developments in this area over the coming years.

Childhood Eczema is increasing and is becoming a common problem to school age children. According to National Eczema society of UK it is a common disease effecting children up to one fifth of all children in UK. The harshness of this disease can vary in different forms. This disease shows its effect on the skin of child and so the symptoms of this disease can also be judged from the inspection of the child’s skin. In its initial forms the skin is hot, itchy and dry while in more severe forms the skin becomes raw, broken and which also results in bleeding which looks very unpleasant and cause uncomfortableness, sleeplessness to child but it is not infectious and it cannot spread to others just by touching. The Aromatherapy treatment can reduce the effect of Eczema in child. The treatment of Eczema can be done with Aromatherapy by the application of Essential Oils on the child through massage but before applying these essential oils it is advisable better not to take risk and should consult from professional Aromatherapist rather than self prescribe this is to avoid any harm because these essential oils can cause harm to children if applied incorrectly. This has been proved by one experiment. The experiment was done to find a better, efficient and effective solution to Eczema. The experiment was that a group consisting of eight children was taken to test the application of Aromatherapy. These children were divided into two groups randomly in which first group received treatment of Aromatherapy in which the essential oils choose to massage the children skin were from among 36 commonly used essential oils. These Essential oils were German Chamomile, Thyme, spike, lavender, benzoin and Litsea cubeba. While another group of children received massage without essential oils. This was done for the period of eight weeks in which massage was given by the therapist once a week while for remaining times mother gave massage to their children. The treatments were evaluated day by day. Children from both groups showed improvement but there were no differences in the improvement of both the groups.

What makes a great Mom?  Anybody can be a mother–but not everyone can be a “mommy.”  One thing my grandmother always said is that “you only get one chance at it. Once they are grown, it is over.  I have learned from my mistakes but I can’t undo them.  To complicate things, I have to sit back and watch my children make the same mistakes and I can’t say anything or I am interfering.”

I think a great Mom is a good listener.  Hear what your children are saying.  A great Mom is a teacher.  Talk to your children especially when they have bad attitudes so you can “nip things in the bud before they sprout.”  Watch how they intermingle with their friends.  How do they treat them?  How can you teach them to improve their relationships?  Ask why they are behaving the way they are so they can learn to think things through.  When punishment is in order, ask them what they think they deserve.  Quite often they will think of a harsher punishment than you will, but let them know the final decision is yours.

Another attribute of a great Mom is dependability and reliability.  Children must feel secure and know you can be trusted to tell the truth.  They need to know you will be there if needed.  Reliability is the ability to examine yourself and keep yourself in check so that your accuracy can be high when it comes to decision making and role-modeling.  Reliability also involves being able to admit when you are wrong and your child is right.  (It does happen, you know) This teaches them honesty with themselves and others.

Remember, your child is a gift from God.  You have only one chance to get it right.  So, do what it takes to get it right.

The hardest part of being mom by herself or single mom occurs usually in social and financial dimensions. There is no better wisdom than this when being in this situation: the ”struggle” needs to be solved by the endurance, the courage, the patience and the determination. The financial problem is the most dominant due to the fact everything is getting expensive nowadays and also everything seems to be about money. Education is about money and society; living in a safe environment is about money;  Things don’t go like we want sometimes; taking care of a child and at the same time working is a challenge; a single mom should be strong enough to organize herself instead of giving up when it comes to the difficulties.

Other than the financial problem, we may distinguish social problems; a single mom would have to face a judgment of the society leading sometimes to discrimination. The eyes on her (like she choose to be in this situation), may affect her. On top of these, she may face a difficulty linked to the injustice. She would have to play two roles when raising her child: ”be the man” when she is the woman. Other than these financial and social problems she may face an educational problem for a child: in order to educate her child, she would have to ”double” her efforts and be closed to her child, watch the company and teach the child the good and the bad; follow the child while doing the homework after school and make sure the child is in the good environment of study. A single mom would have to be protective in order to avoid other children battling her child.

A mother should be selfless, one who will sacrifice everything for her child. She did that for me, she even put me before her own self, and she gave up most of her dreams and goals so I can have a chance to live mine. She gave birth to her first child at the age of eighteen, She gave up her chance to have a college education to ensure that my up bring will ever be as difficult or as challenging as her own.  My mother never knew her mother; she was raised by her aunt, who never loved her like a mother should or even like an aunt should. That’s why I think my mother is extra special because she is so good at being a mother and she never had one. I’ve received so much love from my mother even when I did not deserve it, she never took time off being a mother she was always there when I needed her or not. We weren’t rich my mother worked two jobs just to make ends meet, she gave me things she never had, I ask her why and she said it’s not what you receive that counts but what you give.