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1) Position. Vertical positions are less painful and ease the delivery. Lying on the back is a sure way to improve pain and have a longer delivery. It’s really necessary lying down, choose your left side.
2) Environment. The more personal, silent and respectful ambiance, the easier and happier birth is. Nothing can substitute the lack of freedom and warmness. A woman should have at her disposal music and any personal object. And most important of all, the people she wants by her side.
3) Massage. A relaxing massage can improve enormously the back pain during labor. Circular massage on the lower back can be done by the partner or the doula.
4) Movement. Walking is an important ingredient in any delivery. It facilitates the delivery and lessens the pain of contractions, besides controlling anxiety.

5) Breathing. The breathing should be deep and slow, up to the nose inspires and out the mouth. It improves the supply of oxygen to the baby.

6) Tools. Water is a wonderful tool to sooth and/or accelerates the birth process. Being immersed in a bath tub or under a shower it provides much relief.

What is the best position for them to come out? This is important to know because by “best position” we mean the easier and safer for him and for you.

The best position for your baby to be born is, first of all, when you are in labor and, second, when he is upside down, with the back of the head slightly toward the front of your womb.

In this position, the baby perfectly fits into the curve of your pelvis and it is easy for him to move gently down during labor.

When it comes to the lower part of your pelvis, the baby turns his head a little so that the widest part of the head is in the widest part of your pelvis.

Then, the back of his head can slip down from your pelvic bone; his little face will pass through the perineum, which is the tissue between the back of the vagina and anus.

When the baby shows up from the vagina, he has the back of his head facing toward the front of your abdomen. He is looking backwards compared do you.

In this position the labor is often shorter and easier.

If you are expecting your first child, you should begin to adopt the correct lifestyle since about the 35th week of pregnancy. This mean, starting to do standing exercises that make your womb lean forward. This is when the baby “sinks” in your pelvis, and this is the time to lead him into the right position.

If you are expecting your second child, although the baby does not fit into your pelvis until later, yet it is best to keep your back toward the front of your abdomen from the 35th week.

Sometimes women have a lot of pain, very uncomfortable for several days before labor actually begins. It can be very tiring. However, these pains may be due to the fact that the baby is trying to turn from a posterior position. The best way to deal with the pain is trying to rest as much as possible during the night, and during the day remaining upright and active, leaning forward over the pain. Also eating and drinking regularly will maintain your strength. And do not despair. Nature is turning your baby in the best position for birth.

There are three criteria to define how good a delivery is from the woman’s point of view. These tree criteria also represent three different levels or stages in the experience of birth:

- safety
- satisfaction
- empowerment.

A safe delivery means the presence of minimal risk for the mother and the baby. We cannot deceit ourselves about the total absence of risk. Any delivery involves some risk and it is with this small margin of adverse possibilities that we must learn to deal with.

A satisfying childbirth is the one in which a woman reaches a balanced emotional condition. Despite the fact that seeing her child for the first time is a deeply moving experience, she has to cope while giving birth with her own conflicting emotions (anxiety versus safety, desire versus fear, etc.) plus the medical and hospital stress, the lack of privacy, noises, bright lights and unknown people.

An empowering childbirth is the one that brings a profound transformation in the woman’s inner identity. It’s a rite of passage.

Unfortunately nowadays delivery is conducted in order to be more dangerous than it is, causing more risks than those associated with the inevitable fact of being alive. Therefore, the birth experience is rarely empowering for women.

• Company during labor and delivery – Write who you want to be with you. Positions for labor and birth – Mention which position you would like to use and how active you’d like to be.
• Pain relief – Tell what kind of pain relief you want if any. Water – You may choose to use the shower or a bath tub during labor or delivery. Write it. Monitoring the heart of your baby. Write if you want the doctor hear the baby’s heart intermittently using a handset or if you want an electronic monitoring using a band strapped immobilizing your waist.
• Birth attended – You may want to express your preference for forceps or extractor if you need help with the delivery.
• Position for birth – Say if you want to give birth in bed, or kneeling, standing or squatting.
• Third stage (delivery of the placenta) – You can choose to take your placenta home. There are interesting uses for it.
• Feeding Baby – Be clear about breastfeeding. If you do not say anything, at the hospital they will probably give him the bottle.
• Unexpected situations – Some women write what they want to happen if their babies need special care. They may want to have permission to be with him as much as possible and to be transferred with him to another hospital if the transfer is necessary.
• Special Needs – If you have a disability, write that kind of help will need during childbirth. If you have special religious needs, be sure to include them. Or you may need some rituals or a special diet while in hospital. Write all.

Children think what they have is cool! The truth is you can use this to fact to inspire your children intellectually and artistically.

For example I am currently teaching my 6 year old niece to read, skipping back I have not seen her since she was a baby as I lived in another state. She knew her abc’s and her phonics fairly well but could not read. Straight to the point I had her reading in days and everyone was so impressed especially my niece. But how did I do it is the real question, I changed the environment in her house, and we removed the TV because TV damages the developmental process of neurological developmental process. Then I used TV as a reward for reading. I replaced the TV with books in a fun way. I bought computer programs with games, DVD’s, books, logged on to internet reading sites… basically her and I together made her life letter, words, books and reading; in a very light hearted way. The point is, is that she is a child she will do what is provided in her environment as long as it fun (So Make it Fun!!) so we made her environment fun reading. Therefore she now reads. This can be done for any subject, and the arts saturate the environment and the child will regurgitate what is shown.

The hardest thing for most parents to admit is that children are only a product of their environment… mainly. So when we see our children failing in school, or being a nuisance around the house, it’s hard for us to except that the child was once a blank slate and is only what we helped them to become. All that being said, change the environment around your child and you will change your child’s future, many people over complicate this matter, meaning their environment is your house so change your house into what you desire your child to become. Children think what they have is cool! So if what they have is books, they won’t know the difference between that and a video game.

If your baby doesn’t sleep at night you can check these possible issues:
- Is she breastfed or is getting a bottle? If she takes a bottle, she might be missing your breast, which means you as a whole.
- Does she have stomach ache? Try soft massages like Shantala and the Butterfly Touch. You must learn first how do to it and choose a quiet moment and place to try it out.
- Is your home in peace? Babies feel the tension in the air.
- Are you scared? If you are, imagine how your baby is feeling once she depends entirely on you!
- Is the house noisy? Is the baby’s room dark and quiet? The eyes only rest in the dark. And a baby needs silence around, her sensitivity is much higher that the adults’.
- Is the baby able to go out during the day? It’s important to get out of the house once a day. It relaxes and promotes a good sleep.
- Are you happy? A happy mother makes a happy baby. There is no way to hide real feelings from a baby.
The most effective and healthier pacifier is your breast.

The bond between mother and baby starts in the intra-uterine life, but it really develops during breastfeeding, diapers changing, responsible decisions, touches and looks. Mothers and children will be discovering each other in the hours, days, months and years they spend together. Love grows, becoming stronger grounded. Even to the best and most balanced of the mothers love asks for patience and commitment.

One of the earliest forms of bonding with the baby is breastfeeding, which is the union of feeding and relation.
Another way is touch. After the first month of life, babies love soft massages, like Shantala. The Butterfly touch is also recommended. Both sooth and relax the baby.

Even though the baby does not speak, talking with him is an important form of relation. The tone of voice, the quality of the energy emanating from the mother makes the difference. With a baby, we should talk about what is happening, where he is, what we are doing with him (strolling around, changing diapers, and so on).
Love vibrates through the words and the tone of our voice, as well as through our emotional state while we take care of him.

Do you remember when you were a girl and played with dolls? It seemed so simple and funny. You could do whatever you wanted, making them be mean or nice, funny or serious.

Now you have a really baby in your arms and things don’t seem to be so easy. You love her. You chose to be a mother, but how can this be so difficult?

Relationship is a process, an ongoing story. Both you and the baby need to know each other while you are discovering yourself as a mother. Take your time and be patient.

The same goes with the baby, adding to her difficulties the fact that she cannot speak. She also needs to adjust to her new body and life. Be patient. That’s what it is to be a mother.

In many situations you can feel frightened not knowing what’s going on, and imagine disasters happening. Anxiety urges you to take action when you still haven’t clear what is best to do.

In these cases, just stop and breathe deeply. Close your eyes. Remember, you love your baby, you both are smart. Feel you way and follow your instincts.